What the f***?
I'm so sick of it and it's officially got to me enough to a.) not be angry but cry and b.) stop caring (after the tears, of course).
I am not going to take this anymore and if there are people in my life who are pissed by that, fuck off. I'm in a happy relationship and I want to spend time with Landon. I want to get to know the people in his life and I want to be comfortable around them. That takes effort. I'm sorry Landon doesn't want to get to know my friends but that is for understandable reasons. I've dated some of the guys and some of the people just SUCK as friends. I am not going to take this crap anymore. If you're not going to be accept the fact that I'm in another relationship don't bother talking to me anymore because it's STUPID. Can people not see how much happier I am than in November/December? I am thrilled to be with a guy who loves me and who I love back and I don't get this. I've already lost one good friend over it and I KNOW that I'm going to lose more because they have stuff stuck up their asses. If these people who are acting this way were honestly and truly my friends they would pat me on the back and tell me to do what I had to do. People are telling me that I'm hurting the people who have always been there for me. You know who's always been there for me? Landon. Ya some other people have been there some of the time, but Landon has been there for me from the day he met me. Actually, from BEFORE he met me, he's always cared and done whatever I needed him to and that is something I value more than other relationships. I was breaking Landon's heart in grade 12 but when I had to cry about family stuff, friend stuff, school, EVEN THE OTHER GUY - Landon sat there and helped me through it. I remember getting dumped and Landon came over and cuddled with me. (Sucks for Landon, and baby, I'm SO sorry). There has never been a time that I've needed Landon and he hasn't been there for me. So GET THAT THROUGH YOUR HEADS and then maybe you can start supporting me in my relationship then telling me it's not right.
A true friend would take a step back and realize Landon and I are still fresh in the whole getting back together thing, soon it'll balance out and I'll have more time with them. Until then why can't people take what they can get and be happy for me?
I've had people tell me good luck when things don't work with Landon and I have no one. That right there is a perfect example of a horrible friend. I'm incredibly sorry but being a bitch to me will not win me back as your friend. On the other hand I have friends who tell me that Landon and I fit really well together, that we're 'blissful'. I don't talk to this friend all the time, but when we do talk she's a sweetheart and supports me no matter what happens. She'll do things that seem crazy but help, that's what I need. I have no idea what Landon's friends REALLY think, lol, but they're welcoming and friendly when I see them, they might hate me for what I've done to him but at least they're civil. I don't need the negativity in my life anymore, so in all honesty, if you don't have time to support me and say congrats I'm glad you're happy - don't bother talking to me because I don't care. You can think that we're not right for each other but that is NOT your choice, so get over it.
To the people who have supported me... thanks, I've really appreciated it and it's nice to know there are people I can talk to when things are right or wrong.
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I can really see where you are coming from on all of this. My friends and I have also has issues like this in the past, but we have worked it out. The way I see it is this: We are all looking for certain things in life, may it be success, love or whatever. Happiness is, I think, number one for everyone though. You have love and you have happiness and that takes alot to get. And you are happy. I know that. And I am glad. We all go through ups and downs with relationships and friendships, and friends should support you no matter what, really. They should WANT what is best for you, not DECIDE what is best for you. Those who don't support you obviously don't want what is best for you. With me and my friends we are pretty laid back about things. Sometimes we spend alot of time together and sometimes we dont. We all know that we care for eachother, but at this point in our lives, when we are working, getting an education, moving into the real world, and finding love--basically growing up, things change and things get hard. The best friends are those who are understanding of this, not demanding, and love you always.
Except that you don't have time to talk to those people when things ARE right, ONLY when they are wrong.
Maybe these people don't have time for me when this are right. You never ask me how Landon is and when I said we were thinking of going on a trip you asked WHY? As soon as I was happy again some people stopped talking to me because they were upset with my decision so uhh no wonder I don't talk to some people when things are right.
At this point in our lives, everything is chaotic, stressful, exciting, etc, it is a growing period, but you need to know that as you expand and grow that your true friends are always going to be there for you, through thick and thin. I am happy for you, I am glad you are back together with Landon and I totally understand what you are going through! Being away at school with you I noticed the change immediately! You are almost always happy (except when stressed out of course) and that is because of Landon, and I totally support that. I was in a similar situation with one of my best friends not too long ago, only she was the one dating the guy. I dislike the guy, i dislike the idea of them getting back togther, but NOT ONCE did I ever think about putting our friendship on the line. It was her decision what she does with her life and by being her friend, I am taken along for the ride. No matter what she decides to do I will always be there for her, so I hope you guys that are hurting Em smarten up soon, because you are throwing away a great friendship for an extremely STUPID reason.
You know damn well I asked why because I thought you would rather spend the short time you would have with just your sister because you see her so infrequently and that we have already had this discussion
This is the most rediculously pathetic sittuation I have ever encountered. I have been racking my brain trying to firgure out why in all hell all of Emily's supposed "friends" have such a bloody problem with her boyfriend. It seems as though many think that she's choosing to spend time with him over you... grow the hell up, of course she's chosing to spend TIME with him over you all. In case you all haven't figured this out... friends are people who you don't need to be in physical contact with, boyfriends or girlfriends require physical contact to help the bond grow and develop. Emily is freshly into a relationship with someone who she loves deeply. This means that since they hardly get to actually see each other, when the opportunity is there, they grab it. If any of you were to call Emily at any time when she is not seeing Landon for the first time in two weeks for example, she would be more than willing to talk to you and have that friendship that you all apparently want but won't seem to be understanding of. Will Emily talk to you about how much you hate Landon? No! And who the hell in their right mind would want to talk to Emily about how much they hate the person that she loves with all her heart? Why is it that you all have such a problem with Landon? I have been out with Emily and Landon numerous times and he treats her with utmost dignity and respect. He is the sweetest, most loving boyfriend. He is and always was there for her (something that all of her "caring friends" can't say about themselves), and wants nothing but the best for her. So what I think when I hear about you all bitching, complaining, and giving Emily the cold shoulder, is that you are all a bunch of jealous, self-centered shits. You're jealous that Emily loves someone other than you, that there's someone other than you she can confide in, and that she has someone who loves her tremendously for who she is. Friends are supposed to always be there, during the good times and the bad times. They're supposed to be caring, and even if they don't understand a situation completely they try their hardest to help the other person work it out. I have no idea why Emily insists on calling a lot of you friends. You're not. Friends don't try to bring friends down, and that's what a lot of you are trying to do. I would have rid those horrible "friends" from my life a long time ago, and never looked back, knowing that little shits like you have no place in my life. I hope to God Emily makes the right decision about what to do with all of you. And I truly hope that all of you little shits prove me wrong for Emily's sake.... Emily is kind-hearted enough to forgive you and give you all another chance, so you should all consider your selves very very lucky.
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